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We usually have prime rib and either shrimp or scallops for Christmas dinner.
The prime rib. Is. Now. $240. For six people.
I'm just not seeing it.
I put this out to the family and do you know what they said?
"Let's all just have burgers!"
FOR CHRISTMAS DINNER. I mean, can you imagine Scrooge saying to his door knocker, "I don't know if I imagined everything I saw, Marley, but I'm going to go have hamburgers with my family."
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If your family legitimately likes and wants burgers, that is fantastic. A lot of food focused holidays are less about the wishes of the people and more about the blunt observation of tradition. You may find that burgers are your new tradition, and everyone will look forward to it! Just make sure they weren’t joking. lol. I am also thinking of downsizing the food this season. We made a great lasagna last year, and I think we will go with that again. We used to have beef tenderloin each year. My husband adores it and looks forward to it, but the price has more than doubled and it was hard enough to spend $70 on just the meat for a meal two years ago. Best to you and yours no matter what is served at the Christmas table!
Two words: Turkey tenderloin.
You may be an undigested bit of Burger King, a blot of whopper sauce, a crumb of sesame bun, a fragment of underdone french fries. There's more of gravy than of grave about you, whatever you are!
We are the makers of manners! Have the best burgers EVER!!
I can't believe this post accumulated 318 comments in 7 hours. Actually I can believe it. Anyway. Beef wellington is easy and always feels really special. You don't need as much beef since you hide it in the puff pastry.
The food isn't what makes it Christmas dinner. The family around the table make it Christmas dinner. Don't let a fictional character from 150 years ago Mom shame you into what you think a Christmas dinner has to be.
Even if it’s just for one year, your family will always remember the fun of Burger Christmas!
Give the people what the people want and make the fanciest burgers ever made!
We have tacos for Christmas dinner since my adult kids requested it! And like someone else said, they’re tired of turkey/ham and the fixings. We all love Mexican so why not? Your kid’s idea of burgers is perfect😉
We have frozen pizza. The horror! I cried one Christmas Because our many young children did not want a fancy dinner, no one ate it and I had to clean it up and was sad about it. Next year we had pizza. Everyone was happy. Very little cleaning.
Christmas dinner can be whatever you want! On Christmas Eve we do Chinese take-out. And usually our extended family Christmas celebrations look like soup and a sandwich platter, and chicken fingers eaten on Christmas plates!
One year, I made beautiful beef fillets for the adults and chicken-fried steaks for the kids. All the men in the family were looking over at the kids' food. So now, I make chicken-fried steak, everyone is happy, including my wallet.
Yes. The purpose is the fellowship right? Who cares if it's a turkey or prime rib or hamburgers. Make it special by being a fancy dinner with three forks for hamburgers.
I mean, I am a fan of lasagna so that no one is standing in the kitchen and we all get excellent naps. 😆
A pork tenderloin would also go well with shrimp or scallops. But honestly, if all they want is hamburgers I see no reason not to unless you really want to do something more elaborate. It's a family holiday, just because tradition tells us we should pull out all the stops for Christmas dinner doesn't mean we have to do it that way.
When our kids were little, we found that a formal Christmas dinner just didn't fit us. The kids wanted to snack and play with their new toys and build their new Lego sets more than they wanted to get dressed up and sit at a formal meal. And, especially with the layout of the house we have had for the past couple of decades, a formal dinner means the cook(s) is/are stuck in a separate room away from the fun of watching/playing with the kids. A far less fancy and formal meal works for us, especially if it can start slow cooking the night before so Christmas Day prep is much less. I read your post to my husband, who said, "Burgers sound awesome!" So I vote that you do burgers if that is what your people want. That being said, your feelings matter too, and if it is fun and exciting to you to cook a complex meal and sit down at a fancy table, that is completely reasonable. Your kids are old enough to help make that happen for their mom. A compromise might be to do a more formal meal, though maybe not prime rib (because ouch!), Christmas Eve. We did a more formal sit-down meal a few times on CE, so maybe that would work for your family.
We do roast beef, peas, Yorkshire pudding and twice baked potatoes. We will pay a bit more for a good cut of meat --- but not $240
We’re doing pot roast!
My parents , we had oyster stew, chili, and pizza. On Christmas Day, my mom’s side, was pot luck dinners, every one brought their favorite foods, meat was turkey, goose, pheasant, and ham.
We normally do a prime rib, but are seeing the same thing, $$$$$ so we are thinking homemade lasagna, it feels special enough and it’s easier to make a vegetarian option. Go for the burgers, give the people what they want! Use some of the savings to buy a new game to play as a family!
A burger bar would be so fun. Restaurants sell bougie burgers just as expensive as prime rib these days.
Thanksgiving is about the food. Christmas is about opening presents and putting stuff together and reading the books and playing the games and watching the shows and laughing and talking on the phone to people in other parts of the country (or world) and basically doing whatever the heck you want to do whenever the heck you want to do it. The food can be whatever you want it to be. I don't know how it happened, but 3 or 4 years ago my husband glommed onto a standing rib roast (prime rib) for Christmas dinner. He loves making it, we love eating it, so it has stuck as the latest tradition. Unless he can't find a decent cut at any of the local stores, I'm sure we'll have it again this year, no matter the cost. In past years we've run the gamut, though. Take out BBQ, homemade pizzas, smoked ham, surf and turf, you name it, we've had it for Christmas dinner!
We have pizza and have for 22 years now. 🤷🏻♀️. It started when we were young and both working at different churches. We came home from Christmas services and slept all afternoon. Whatever we planned didn’t get made and instead we pulled the frozen pizza in off the porch (Alaska) and now it’s tradition.
Fezziwig would have made amazing burgers with gourmet mustard and great cheese.
At the time of A Christmas Carol, the Christmas meal was the one time of feasting in a year of poverty fasting. In 2025 we do not need this one meal to make up for all the skimpy meals we did without.
I’m on board with all of the objections in this article—with a caveat or two. Namely that none of this is NEW. It’s been going on for decades.
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In American high schools the age of the book may be fading.
Many teenagers are assigned few full books to read from beginning to end—often just one or two per year…Perhaps that is to be expected in the era of TikTok and A.I. Some education experts believe that in the near future, even the most sophisticated stories and knowlege will be imparted mainly through audio and video, the forms that are dominating in the era of mobile, streaming media.
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Well, yes. Social media and AI are absolutely presenting us with new challenges.
But all the way back in 1998, when my mother and I were writing the first edition of The Well-Trained Mind, we suggested that one of the hallmarks of classical education was its reliance on whole texts, instead of excerpts and summaries. We were reacting to middle and high school literature “textbooks” that never required students to read an entire book—just bits and pieces (and answer multiple choice questions about them afterwards). This default to smaller, simpler, more digestible sections of literature has been part of American education since at least the 1970s.
As has the tendency to dwell on ONE book for so long that the students are effectively inoculated against ever enjoying it again. I remember, vividly, one of my cousins explaining to me in the early 1980s that they spent the ENTIRE semester reading and analyzing TO KILL A MOCKINGBIRD—an amazing work of fiction that my cousin will, undoubtedly, never read again. That strategy isn’t new, but it’s alive and well.
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“We typically spend a ridiculous amount of time reading each book, such that in my freshman year, we read only one, ‘Macbeth.’”
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My mother and I also warned against this in the first edition of The Well-Trained Mind Mind. Over-analysis in middle and high school is death to the actual enjoyment of literature.
And you know what else kills the love of reading? Being required to read the same stagnant lists of texts.
I’m a fan of the classics. For me, “classics” doesn’t mean the list of twentieth century novels that vividly reproduced a certain time and place that is now…gone and absent. Should we still read The Great Gatsby and Lord of the Flies? Well…maybe. Or possibly not. Consider from this essay the list of most frequently assigned novels in 1963:
Huckleberry Finn
Hamlet
Julius Caesar
Macbeth
The Scarlet Letter
A Tale of Two Cities
Great Expectations
Our Town
The Red Badge of Courage
Silas Marner
And the same list in 2024:
Fahrenheit 451
Hamlet
The Crucible
Macbeth
Night
The Great Gatsby
To Kill a Mockingbird
Lord of the Flies
Of Mice and Men
Romeo and Juliet
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People, what are we doing here?
I’m not even going to pick on the 1963 list. Just the 2024 one.
It may surprise you that, as someone who champions classical education, I’m going to suggest that students do NOT need to read three Shakespeare plays when they’ve got the entire panoply of English literature to choose from. One would do the trick. Teach them how to understand an English idiom very different from their own, and teach them how to read a drama intended to be performed and not read. For that reason, I’d also boot out The Crucible. Learn to read one play well and you’ll carry that skill onwards. And of the three Shakespeare plays, Hamlet most definitely. They can hit Romeo and Juliet later. And Macbeth when they’re old enough to grasp the perils of ambition.
Why are we still assigning The Great Gatsby and The Lord of the Flies and Of Mice and Men in high school? All three of these novels are snapshots of particular times and places. Valuable? Of course, if you’re studying history. You know what they’re NOT? Gripping reads. Filled with great development of identifiable characters and deep explorations of understandable inner motivations. Excellent examples of tight plotting. Good heavens, if I were a high school student given this list, I’d give up on reading too.
What would I add?
Poems of John Donne or George Herbert, as an introduction to metaphysical language.
The Hunger Games. Yep, you heard me right. If we’re going to introduce them to dystopian literature—which we SHOULD do—let’s give them a gripping narrative that has constant references to the ancient past, and let’s encourage them to compare the book version to the movie, and talk about what’s better about the text, better about the adaptation. And talk about the bare-bones style and why that fits this particular form.
The Hobbit, or The Once and Future King. Good, evil, and mythology. Done.
At least one novel of the Asian or African diaspora. The Joy Luck Club, The Namesake, Things Fall Apart, Native Son.
We want them to read, don’t we? To enjoy reading? To get lost in a time and place that is not their own? Of Mice and Men isn’t going to do it.
And they should READ the book all the way through, discuss it for not more than two weeks, and then move on to the next book.
That may or may not improve test scores, which (as the piece points out) is another major issue.
But it might actually convince high school students that reading is a worthwhile pursuit.
(I’d love to hear your own suggestions. I’m a little ambivalent about Farenheit 451, for what it’s worth, and I could easily be convinced to pop 1984 in there instead.)
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Kids Rarely Read Whole Books Anymore. Even in English Class.
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When teachers do assign whole books, they often choose from a stagnant list of classics.4 days ago
Y’all know what I love reading?? This thread!! It’s like a gathering of literature lovers and thoughtful people! Sadly, I find it hard to be able to discuss literature with people. My kids are grown and gone and I am not in the homeschool circles anymore! I did teach literature back in the day - to both high school and jr. high and this is a wonderful trip down memory lane!
Absolutely include Hunger Games - the emotion, the way characters are presented as multi-layered complex making hard decisions, an more. I've long thought these should be included in the classics.
My daughter ADORED the Scholars Seminar class with The Well Trained Mind Academy. I think she read a book a week in that class. She is still a voracious reader after High School.
Hamlet, Macbeth etc. by Shakespeare are not novels, they are plays. There's a serious problem when a critic cannot distinguish a novel from a play.
No Joseph Conrad. Please. I do think everyone should read Jane Eyre or Wuthering Heights.
I could say much, but I'll just say this: Batter my heart, three-person'd God, for you . . . And, yes. We want them to read, and to enjoy reading.
I don’t know how many times I read Dante’s “Inferno” in Highschool. I couldn’t get enough of it. And Daphne du Maurier’s “Rebecca”. I read it within 24 hrs. Couldn’t put it down.
HOLY COW YES!! I’ve been saying this for years, but I thought it made me not-a-true-classical-ist. This is lovely, lovely to read. ❤️
I have to say my students love Fahrenheit and Lord of the Flies! I think they are SO applicable to today. That said, I’ve always wanted to teach The Hunger Games, they are brilliant on many levels. And we just finished Things Fall Apart in World lit (I teach at a homeschool co-op).
Thank you for this!
I graduated from high school in 1986 and I'll give my school credit. We read a lot of complete novels/plays/works. I don't recall using a textbook for a Lit class after 9th grade. A lot of what we read were the classics mentioned. My own kids who graduated in 2011 and 2015 also read complete books in school. I read a lot of those books after they were finished with them. They read some of the classics mentioned and also some more contemporary works. The complaint I had with school reading was centered around AR. I have very mixed feelings about it. I was a special education teacher and some of my students were motivated by AR points. My own children were/are avid readers and AR hindered their recreational reading. My daughter loved the Harry Potter books and she was about the same age as the kids in the books. The books were still coming out as she was growing up and she was interested in all of the book parties and such that surrounded the releases. But at school, they would not allow her to count HP for AR in middle school because the books were below her reading level. Her reading level in middle school was beyond 12th grade but that's not where her interest level was. I encouraged her to read what she wanted to for her recreational reading and not choose books based on AR points.
For Asian lit, Everything I Never Told You by Ng. It touches on intersectional identities and the need to fit in in a powerful way.
I was pretty lucky I think to have a well designed English Department at my public school, way back in the late ‘80s. After our sophomore year, if you were at the college prep. level, you were able to choose 9 week themed English courses. Different courses were designed by each English teacher, usually around a passion area they had. We would generally read 2-3 books each 9 weeks and write a paper or do a project after each book and of course have class discussions about each book. I can still remember a particular set of class discussions about a book called Praise the Human Season in a nine week course called “From Green to Gold”. Every student also took a semester American Lit. class junior year and a nine week British Lit. Course senior year. As a student way back when, I felt it was a good way to study literature and be introduced to books I may have never chosen to read. It also prepared me really well for college level reading and writing.
Yeah my 9th grader finished The Great Gatsby this semester and I could tell understood almost none of it. We were also studying the 1920s in history but I think it didn't even help him there really.
ALL OF THIS, SUSAN, MY HERO. All of this. Back to back years of semester-long intensives of Great Expectations SLAYED any interest in Dickens for decades for me.
Also, for dystopia, I’m not against Hunger Games, but what about Octavia Butler? And let’s use Vonnegut more. Short, weird, fun.
I read Fahrenheit on my own, because I had watched the movie and it looked interesting. I graduated from high school in 1969 (for reference). We had anthologies each year, along with one or two extra novels (I assume; it's hard to remember!). I remember reading Macbeth and R&J, as well as some sonnets during our poetry unit. Wuthering Heights in my senior year, which I had already read on my own, more than once; it was the only time I ever participated in classroom discussion. 🙂 We read the Scarlet Letter sophomore year; terrible book. I have no idea when I read 1984; maybe my junior year. I think I was already reading own my own (mostly horse books) such that my English classes couldn't mess that up. But when we're talking on the forums, or on social media, I usually tell people to read a variety of genres each year, not just novels, whole works instead of excerpts. The author of Writing Strands, Dave Marks, abhorred products which only included excerpts in their reading/writing instruction. It is probably he who influenced my thoughts in way. 🙂
I homeschooled my 8th, 5th, 3rd, and 1st graders for 3 months while we were out of the country, but since we were coming back to school, I just used their school curriculum. Some of the selections in the Wonders books were great, but I really didn't like the corresponding questions. "What is the author trying to convey by using this word/sentence?" "How doed the diagram help you understand the text?" I think it's important for kids to master reading comprehension and recognize unreliable narrators, but these questions were such a slog!
I had a child in 7th grade public school last year (having been homeschooled through elementary). Her class read The Outsiders and then NEVER discussed it. They simply filled out online questions and submitted their answers. I was appalled! One of the main points of reading a book together is to have common discussion about the book. My kid had discussions about the book with a different teacher at her own incentive and got more out of this discussions that the actual class.
My students loved doing close reads of great books: Great Expectations, Fahrenheit 451, The Brothers K, Lord of the Rings, The Great Gatsby, Pride and Prejudice, Dorian Gray, several Shakespeares, Homer...the list goes on. I think it depends not only on the book but also the love the teacher has for a particular work. If the teacher presents it as relevant and enriching to their lives, presents a story not merely as a written work but also as something to hear and to see the students will more often than not respond in kind. ((IMO)) Shakespeare should be EXPERIENCED, Of Mice and Men is a wonderful listen, others can be read and / or received by audio. I myself am dyslexic and so I came to the table with an "if I can do it you can do it" mentality, and they usually did.
While I can appreciate the need to reevaluate and revamp the suggested/required reading list, I appreciate that I’ve read some of the titles you mentioned, mostly because I had a good teacher that lead excellent discussions, but also because it allowed me to be part of the “great conversation” in a way I wouldn’t have chosen myself. If I talk with a person in their fifties and a high schooler now, we’ve all read The Great Gatsby and can bring it up in a meaningful conversation. So is it perhaps worth requiring some books to be read if is is a book that has achieved enough renown in our culture that it binds us together? If the lists gets revamped for the sake of helping kids adopt reading as a life long persist, which ideally would make us all more well read and able to take part in that Great Conversation, I’d like you to be on the board who gets to decide which ones to keep and which ones to replace. 🙂
I agree and as I am in the US, I would add some Native lit in there. I don’t have great suggestions, but I know they exist.
Roll of Thunder, Hear My Cry in middle school, please!
I'm going to disagree on Of Mice and Men. Both of my kids read it in high school and were pretty taken with it. The Outsiders was a big hit too. My elder son usually read against his will, and he read it twice.
And for heaven's sake, let that Shakespeare play not be Romeo and Juliet. My nephew came home last year spouting off about how Romeo and Juliet is a love story. The poor boy had to hear my lecture about how it is a TRAGEDY and everyone dies FOR A REASON! He thought is was super entertaining, but why didn't they let the kids read Taming of the Shrew? Or A Midsummer Night's Dream? Those plays are just plain fun. I would also add Harry Potter to your list. And they should just be reading them and talking about form. Not analyzing them. Sigh.
Time for a Great Shadow update! I'm thrilled that the book just got a starred review in Library Journal, which said in part:
"Bauer’s storytelling style allows readers to practically experience firsthand how humans have adapted to and dealt with disease throughout history. Her research is impeccable, with hundreds of references listed in a notes section at the book’s end. VERDICT Both specialists and lay readers will be captivated by the narrative of Bauer’s necessary and timely work, which manages to be at once stark and sobering, yet engaging and entertaining."
Thank you, Library Journal! And additional thanks to Shelf Awareness ("informative and lively"), Arlene and Company ("a five star read"), and Booklist ("especially fascinating") for their reviews.
And the Audible version is now available for pre-order as well. Plenty of links below for your to explore--and thanks for following along.
www.audible.com/pd/The-Great-Shadow-Audiobook/B0F6GB7ZWF
www.shelf-awareness.com/issue.html?issue=5111#m69579
www.youtube.com/watch?v=BESRHcdAkBs
www.libraryjournal.com/review/the-great-shadow-a-history-of-how-sickness-shapes-what-we-do-think-...
us.macmillan.com/books/9781250272911/thegreatshadow/
bookshop.org/p/books/the-great-shadow-a-history-of-how-sickness-shapes-what-we-do-think-believe-a...
www.barnesandnoble.com/w/the-great-shadow-susan-wise-bauer/1147243804
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That this is well researched with a mountain of texts used is not surprising. I have bought and read, and used in my classroom the books you reference in your other books. I am very excited to read this, I have a copy already paid for in advance. Something tells me this will be a nice addition to my students’ questions about all those kings dying of dysentery 😉.
I couldn't get this amazon link to work but have pre-ordered after a search - can’t wait!
Cannot wait to read it. Well done.
